According to Wikipedia, hope is defined as:
Hope is a belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one's life. Hope implies a certain amount of perseverance — i.e., believing that a positive outcome is possible even when there is some evidence to the contrary.
When my water broke (at 23.0 weeks), a neonatologist told us that Paige would never be normal if she was born before 26 weeks. When she was delivered at 25.5 weeks, I hoped he was wrong.
It was that hope and my insane need to prove him wrong, that drove me to do what ever I could to improve her outcome.
I hoped she would walk.
I hoped she would talk.
I hoped she would escape RSV.
I hoped she would escape hearing loss.
I hoped she would escape blindness from her ROP.
I hoped she would eat by mouth.
I had other hopes too. But, I had to learn to allow myself to alter them as time went on. I grew to respect the honesty of the above mentioned neo. He told me my options and gave me real information on outcomes.
Recently I was told that the information being discussed on my blog is taking away hope from new preemie parents. I respectfully disagree.
Being educated on the possible long term issues related to prematurity should not take away the hopes you have for your preemie. Knowing the possibilities allows you to be informed.
Let your hopes drive you. But don't stick your head in the sand and ignore information that may be beneficial in the future.